How many Oscars do you have sitting on your mantle?

In the spirit of last month’s Academy Awards, I invite you to find some levity and humour in choosing your own Academy Award winning picks from the internal movies you make based on your past, and how effectively they scare the heck of you Now and in the Future.

Hollywood rolls out its red carpet annually to celebrate the best movies of the year. We roll out our own red carpet daily to rewatch our favourite scary inner movies from all years past. In fact we love these upsetting movies so much that we remake them for our future. I mean, we must love them, right? We bring in new actors, new props,  and new locations, but we always return to that same old script that we’ve been carrying around since childhood.

Here are the nominees for Best Scary Inner Movie:

IN THE PAST CATEGORY (0 – 2012) (see note for voting instruction):

1. You Are Not Good Enough

2. You Are Stupid

3. Shut Up … Children Should Be Seen And Not Heard

4. They Don’t Love Me

5. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees.

Note to Voter: Those exact words may or may not have been said directly to you. But you created an inner movie based on the feeling behind those words — e.g., what happened to you, what you witnessed, and what you make that mean about you … a great lead-in for our next category of very creative upcoming films:

IN THE FUTURE CATEGORY (still in production)
(see note for voting instruction):

1. I Am Not Good Enough

2. I Am Stupid

3. I’m Not Worth Listening To And I Feel Invisible 

4. I Will Never Find A Life Partner

5. There Is Never Enough And I Need To Work Harder.

Note to Voter: Notice the correlation between the first 2 categories (hint … check the corresponding colours).

Here are the nominees for the best leading actor/actress
in all categories:

1. You

2. You

3. You

4. You

5. You

Next year’s films are now in the making. If you’re ready to try a new film genre instead of reworking the old horror shows, then give me a call. I have helped many fledgling writers and actors produce award-winning work that vaults them into new uplifting categories such as I Rock My World, I Am Brilliant, People Value My Opinions, I Love Me, and Money Is My Friend.

Call me at 604-885-9793 or email me to arrange for your free 20-minute phone consultation. I can answer your questions and we can take it from there.

Many of us have had unresolved issues for so long that the suffering becomes our norm and we get bogged down with symptoms.

EFT helps us to go underneath and tap into the deeper part of us that somehow got disconnected from joy, peace and creativity.

For example, if fear is the norm and I am checking in to see what I need to remember to be afraid of … I am probably limiting my awareness to the fear. If I am doing this over and over every day, I will create a patterned response and it will affect my wellness.

I can use EFT on the fearful thought and see what exists under the belief.

Fear is a representation of an anchored memory to an unhealed experience. If something happened in the past and it never got resolved or healed, it will continue to be managed as a current event. It’s just like a current of electricity that flows through our circuits. These undigested current events will be stored in our energy system and we may eventually think that that is who we are.

I see these out of balance expressions as a communication from our deeper wiser self. Our wise self is clashing with the fear so that we can feel it, and then heal it.

Frozen
Energy
Asking to be
Released

Life without familiar pain and suffering is possible. Please explore new thoughts even if they seem foreign and miraculous. EFT is a way to freedom in our busy world and even though it might sound too good to be true, what have you got to lose? Maybe your fear is what you might lose

Until March 15th 2013, I am offering a Dip Your Toe Special, where I invite you to learn a new way to be You.

This is the first in a series of “Question & Answers” posts about how to get the most from EFT.

The number 1 question that I hear is “How do I know what to say?” when it’s time for clients to do their own maintenance EFT work in between sessions with me.

I’ve created a 2 minute audio answer below. Just click on the little arrow at the right to play :

How do I get the right statement to tap on

I would love your feedback on this format, and your next question for me to answer.

Please email me at eftshifts@gmail.com with your comments and questions.

Til next time,

Happy Tapping!

We are all at choice points when we rub up against inner conflict that will ultimately show up as outer conflict. Our exterior world will always represent where we are disconnected from ourselves on the inside, whether it is work, family, close relationships, friends, health, money — or our emotions.

Often we will find the same trend in our family of origin and childhood dynamics that has been a pattern building on itself for decades. Inner personal awareness of these patterns is an excellent observation. It is what we choose to do with our awarenesses that is key and from there we can witness our participation from a Soul perspective.

We have two options:

Know What We DO Want and focus on this

VS

Know What We DON’T Want and focus on that

If we choose the second path — focusing on what we DON’T want — then more of the very thing we don’t want will manifest. You know the old saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got”.

Sometimes we avoid our pain in the hopes that it will just go away. For example, we trip and fall and get a deep cut with dirt and gravel in it. We clean the wound so it can heal. Later we realize that we didn’t remove all the gravel and dirt …with a bit of pressure we notice a little pain, but nothing we can’t handle. So our beautiful body creates a protective shield around the dirt in the form of a callus. It still hurts if we press on it, so we avoid “touching the sore spot” and put up with the pain. Then some time later, out of the blue, that old bump under the skin flares up and festers. If we want to heal we must open up the old wound, give it a proper cleaning to release the old dirt and then we heal.

We do crazy things with our emotional wounds. We do our darnedest to ignore the old hurts even though they cause us pain. After many long years the old emotional wounds begin to fester, showing up in all of our creations as low self esteem, feeling unloved, money issues, etc. Everything becomes tainted and very painful. I call this MANIFESTERING: toxic manifesting through unhealed thoughts and beliefs that we have kept in the shadows of our deepest wounds.

The Laws of Manifesting and the Laws of Manifestering follow the exact formula for our creations.

The good news is that we can look at our past and learn from and heal our old patterned responses.

We CAN change our future right now, for 2013 !

Choose to Relieve the Past rather than Relive it !

May 2013 bring you much satisfaction with your healing journey.

Blessings, Love, Laughter, Health, Joy and A Knowing of Your Heart’s Desires,

Dana Williams

~ BLESS US ALL WITH PATIENCE ~

Some of us spend more and more every year, hoping for approval and recognition. But our out-of-balance extravagance will in the end create unfavourable consequences. If we are kind only in December, then we might want to examine why we feel so inadequate with ourselves that we need to justify our love by a dollar sign.

Over-the-top consumerism with its $ spend, spend, spend for Christmas $ programming now starts at the beginning of November ! If we allow ourselves to be seduced by these messages, we are unconsciously setting the pace for our 2013 learnings. How we deal (or don’t deal) with December’s gold and glitter shows us where we may lack clear boundaries with our own truth.

LOVE = $$$
is NOT a healthy Christmas

Are you setting yourself up to “flunk Christmas”? Many of us LOVE the warm and fuzzy feelings and adore all the excitement of the celebration. But there are many others who feel victimized and driven to perform so that they can be accepted and loved during this dear December.

I like the idea of seeing whatever is activating DISCOMFORT in me as a catalyst for growth. Good ole innocent December … a fabulous teacher to help us with clarity and boundaries, and thus survive the minefield that awaits us during these next 31 days.

Choose to change it up this season, and notice your NEW NORMAL. Cut back on the festive cocktails, overeating, and gossip. Say no to chaos and drama. Scale back the superficial gifting. Remember that Stressed is Desserts spelled backwards. Check in with your personal energy and see where you get taken out.

If December is an anniversary of pain for you, then have a staff meeting with the ‘Inner You’. Decide what it is that YOU want to create for YOU, then write it down and create from that clarity.

I sincerely wish you a truth-filled holiday season, however you chose to weather the teachings of DEAR DECEMBER.

~ Blessings to Us All ~
~ In Love and Truth ~
Dana Williams

Is F.E.A.R.* the ultimate authority in your life?

These introductory questions are all asking the same thing. If this is how you are witnessing your life, then it is time to get a handle on busting through these old fear-based beliefs that are continuing to create more of the same.  It might start off as one fear that is repeated; over time more fears merge with previous fears until life becomes overwhelming in every direction.

We can’t add positive intentions to a cup that is already filled, and/or spilling over, with F.E.A.R. But we can drain off those unwanted contents and then refill the container with what we desire.

F.E.A.R. is not the enemy; in fact it is a part of me that is constantly reacting to show me what I need to heal and clear.

But instead of looking the fear in the eye, we often try to avoid it by distracting ourselves from it. Think about a minor fear right now. Notice how it takes you out of this moment. It will either take you to the past or the future, or even both.

When we check in with our inventory of unhealed fears and make decisions through the old stories, we are anchoring those fears on a deeper level for future “managing”. This technique only serves to gather more power with the buried fear.
The F.E.A.R. response is a clue for us to go in and uncover the trauma so that we can release the frozen energy and give our cellular memory new resources.

Curiosity and kindness can help us root out those fears and know what is really true now so that we can return to the path of Health.

Here is what Helen had to say about my most recent workshop:

About a year ago, Dana was recommended to me about some problems I was having.  So I procrastinated and recently went to a workshop she was holding.  I volunteered for a demo as I was having pain in my thumb which radiated up my arm and into the shoulder which is a result of using a cane to walk with.  After the tapping session the pain was gone; I was able to move my thumb in all directions; there was no pain up my arm and had a general feeling of well being. I was amazed to have such a great result in such a short time.”

PS: Stay tuned for details of December’s monthly Tapping Group at Yoga by the Sea (for those that wish to take the learnings deeper).

Date: Thursday, November 8, 2012

Time: 6:30 pm – 7:30 pm

Email Dana to save your spot.

These are ALL symptoms of being stuck in your head. When we have unfinished business from our past, that same unfinished business interferes with our creations and dreams in the Now.

Our computers show us this example very clearly. If the computer memory is full we won’t be able to download new programs or files; there’s just no space for the new info. We need to clear out old outdated programs and files in order to make way for the new ones we want. We can try and insert new disks multiple times but nothing will change until we release some old files. Then we can load the new ones.

Similarly, when life isn’t working for us, it’s because we have an internal “stuck program” that needs to be released. We typically want to change our outside world so that we will be unstuck. We will work harder, plan harder, create new strategies, all of which just keep us in our head and in the same old same old.

I like to call this the “I’ll be happy when” syndrome … us convincing ourselves that our outer world needs to change so that we can be happy. But the only way to get things unstuck is to clear the inside first (by identifying and releasing the belief system that is getting in the way) and the outer world will automatically shift.
Tina’s story is an example of looking deeper inside. Tina (not her real name) was stuck in her job for decades and was afraid to make a change. She really wanted to quit her job but she didn’t believe in herself because of past programing from her family of origin. She couldn’t move forward and find a different job because she didn’t know what she wanted.

Her mother was domineering and her father was emotionally absent. Her mother taught her that she wasn’t allowed to feel what she was feeling. If Tina was angry, sad or tired, she was told not to feel what she felt. She would be judged and shamed by her mother for acknowledging her feelings. If Tina was happy, her mother would make her feel guilty and shame her. Tina learned that in order to survive in the family, she would need to shut down her inner voice and not feel anything. Whenever she got excited about wanting something for her birthday or Christmas, she was told that she was being selfish. When she didn’t want to eat what was on her plate, she was punished for all the starving children in the world. So many survival skills were developed early on in Tina’s life that she slowly forgot to know how to listen to her inner voice and honor her truth.

Tina had complacency-itis. She was depressed and made her decisions based on “shoulds or shouldn’ts” programed from birth. Her job was just a symptom that showed her the real culprit that needed to be addressed. Tina needed to heal her inner programming, learn to feel her feelings, and start giving herself permission to discover what she liked or didn’t like.

When Tina finally started to do her healing inner work with me, it was the first step in her “coming alive” process. It was a huge realization for her when she saw that every area of her outer world was 100% being affected from her mother’s programming. Once she changed her inner world, her outer world automatically started to shift itself. It became easier and easier for her to check in with her truth and eventually speak it out loud. And now … Tina is living a life she could only dream of before. It no longer sucks to be her!

Many of you might be thinking that this is just too big to tackle all the different areas that Tina needed to address. But it doesn’t need to take long. Tina did it in just 11 hours. She purchased myTransformation Package #1 and together we deleted  those old stuck programs. Now Tina is able to manage the discomfort of change and actively turn her dreams into reality.

If it sometimes sucks to be you, give me a call at 604-885-9793. Let’s clear your old beliefs and programs that are holding you back so that you can start living your dreams. Now.

THE UNIVERSE IS NEUTRAL

We are so plugged into the idea of ‘Right & Wrong’.

If we are happy, then we must be doing it right…  Right?

If we are unhappy, we must be doing it wrong…  Right?

Unhappiness leads us to work harder to fix it, so that everybody is happy, and, by the way, we tend to leave ourselves out of the equation.

We compare past moments of happiness, try to recreate them, but it all falls flat. So we work harder to get the happiness back. When it doesn’t happen, we blame and shame ourselves for not being good enough.

When we feel like we let “them” down and we go into judgment and wrong ourselves for not working hard enough to get their love and approval, this is the key to recovering our missing piece.  In this moment of realization, we are actually doing something right !

Stay with me here …
The Universe will always match us where we are unclear, in particular with the gap in our boundaries. It will match the lowest vibration in the gap of “no” boundaries and send in the messengers to dance with that energetic match.

Years and years of matching and dancing with the old patterns put us in a trance of thinking that we are “wrong” or else we would be happy.

Often, the reason we are not happy is because we are doing it for someone else’s approval and this is wrong.

So we are actually right when we discover this.

Kinda upside down at first, but when we get it, it will automatically change our life

“Happy” is a very subjective state. We often unconsciously give our power to close relationships to decide for us if we are allowed to be happy or not.

Let’s call back the responsibility for our own creations from the start. Hanging out in judgment, blame and victimhood is a choice.

Look behind THE MONKEY BUSINESS and see what is underneath … the shadow behind the busy little Monkeys that are jangling our nervous system keeps us afraid and victimized so that we don’t claim our boundaries.  These busy-makers are just survivors of the unhealed patterns. (There is still time to heal these monkeys! … register for my 2-day workshop HEAL YOUR MONKEY MIND where you will learn to release your phobias, fears and anxieties. Call me at 604-885-9793 if you have any questions.)

We can be so habitually trained to be busy and working hard and not being in our truth and putting others first in order to avoid looking these frightened monkeys in the eye.

Why would we want to give all of our power over to these dancing, jacked-up, scared little tricksters? Often it is to keep us safe from our own brilliance, because this brilliance is foreign to us.

Let’s look these patterns in the eye and allow them to be released so that our clear boundaries can be the theme to send out to the Universe.

When the Universe picks up the energies of clarity and co-creation with higher vibrational personal endeavors, it will match these ~ always!

The Universe has no agenda, other than to follow our inner self talk and communication. So, living small and in fear becomes a choice when we know the truth of the above wisdom.

Make the choice to update these old habitual patterns and send out a new call through your energy so that you can witness new awareness.

Call to yourself what you want,
instead of what you don’t want.

End the “Story” !

Hope to see you on April 28th.

Blessings to All,
Dana

How Do You React To Your Inner Messages?

Has Your Inner Monkey Business Got You Down?

How much $$$ is it costing you to defer to these inner limiting belief monkeys?

Are they blocking you from creating the life you dream of?
career?
bank account?
your relationships?
your health?
your joy?
… ?

Monkey Business thrives on those limiting beliefs that keep you stuck. It’s as if we have powerful monkeymind search engines working for us at all times that keep those  limiting beliefs visited habitually. The monkeymind search engines are on auto response mode and keep the fear factor alive and well to keep us safe from our dreams and goals.

What if we retrain those monkeys to work with a new program with ease and grace and full communication to be in rapport with our brilliance?

Let’s help those powerful monkey paws release their tight grip off our eyes that keep us from seeing who we truly are.

Let’s relax the freeze response where the monkeymind paws keep us from hearing and speaking our truth.

(Hmmm ~ my very creative Inner Metaphor Magician just flagged me as it does sooo often … monkey paws are also the same as hitting the “pause” button on our ” Go forward into making it happen response”… )

Those scared little monkey paws are just trying to keep me safe from the old wound of shame or guilt or getting it wrong — right?

Monkey Paws are not the enemy; they are just working really hard to protect the inner unhealed wounds.

It can actually be fun to heal all this very old STUFF, so please join me on this journey to Clear Out Limiting Beliefs and start havin’ some fun as the Brilliant Beings that We Already Are.

This IS a very Intelligent Universe and if you haven’t noticed, It continues to feed back to us what we haven’t healed yet.

No matter how hard our little busy monkeys work.

(I love that inside the word monkey is the word KEY.)

These monkeys are actually holding the KEY to our success ~ and I invite you to access this KEY in my April 28th/29th Workshop “HEAL YOUR MONKEY MIND ~ Release Toxic Talk-Sick Programs“.

Price:  $367 for this 2-day workshop

Click here for more information or call me at 604-885-9793

It’s Time to Clear Out Those Limiting Beliefs to Success !!!